This Reddit MIL Threw a Fit Because She Wasn’t the First To Hold Her Grandchild

Mothers-in-law: they can be the greatest asset to a new mom with an infant … or they can be an absolute nightmare on top of what is already a stressful time. Unfortunately for one Redditor who just gave birth, the latter was the case after her mother-in-law threw a fit for *gasp!* not being the first person to hold the baby. But wait, there’s a kicker.

“When I (F26) met my husband’s (M34) mom, I hoped for a healthy mother figure type relationship. She’s okayish; but she can be a little controlling given that my husband is her only child; she tends to act super protective of him,” she explained.

“When I got pregnant, MIL made a request to be the first person to hold my son after he’s born. She wanted to be in the delivery room with me but I refused to let her, my husband said he’d keep her out of the room under the condition that she be the [first] person to hold the baby. I didn’t agree but didn’t disagree as well. Just stayed silent.”

There’s a lot to unpack here. The mother-in-law’s request feels pretty intense, maybe even impossible; for the most part, doctors are the first person to touch a newborn, given that they’re the ones delivering them and all. And the wife and husband’s communication feels strained at best, given that the OP did not flat-out give her husband an answer to the request.

“The baby was born days ago. All my husband was worried about was having his mom be the first to meet the baby, but she was out of town attending a friend’s daughter’s wedding. He said she wouldn’t be back til two days later. Mom and sister already came to help and they held my son as they were helping me after my husband went back to work. I had no [one] to help and they were my go-to.”

Um, naturally! After you have a baby, you need a lot of help, and if the person who wanted the guarantee of holding the newborn baby isn’t even present, that’s on them. Of course, that is not how this mother-in-law, or the OP’s husband, saw it all.

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